Mad Serb wrote:
Happiness, BTW, is THE gauge by which a person's success is measured
Happines is one of the worse gagues there is. How people respond to the question depends on how the question is framed and the state of mind of that person at the moment of questioning and how they feel their position in society is relative to the average. Thus, it may be (not sure if it realy is) that people in Serbia would report themselves to be happier than people in Canada. Yet all the data that show quality of life point that Canadians on average live better than Serbs. (By "data" I mean not size of cars and number of iPods or how people "feel", but the things that most people find important and are measurable
- live span, crime rate, education, health, living conditions, job situation, etc)
This may be true for those who have lived in penury and wagered their lives on the "having" rather than the "being" aspects of life.
One "has" a career. One "has" a family. One "has" friends, cars, influence, respect and admiration from their peers. But "having" may lead to loss. Then what? Shoot yourself when you lose it all? It is a familiar scenario.
I can't lose my being. My happiness does not hinge on "having", and certainly is not determined by a superficial comparative evaluation of others' stance in society and their posessions.
My happiness is without measure or source; it just IS. And being aware of this makes me even happier.
Those who know me well believe I am a successful person in spite of "having" nothing to my name.
I've agreed to restrain myself. I'm thinking of turning you into a dolphin instead, sending you back to your father.