Sturm wrote:
So why did you fuck your ex and got stuck with a load of kids?
You should have foreseen a guy fucking some buddy of yours before you.
Your sexlife is so far in the whitetrash department that you should have seen from the guys appearance that he fucks your female friend while you are away..
You just dont have the IQ.
And you don't know what you're talking about. My husband had a complete personality change when I was pregnant with my second set of twins. Prior to that, there was no indication to ANYONE around us that he would ever cheat. He was diagnosed with depression and put on anti-depressents that made him worse, because of a family history of bi-polar they worked in the opposite way to how they should. And he was under stress in all areas of life, and because he had put me on a pedestal and credited me for his happiness, it seemed logical to him that I must have been the cause of his unhappiness as well.
He admitted to me after he moved in with her, that he wished he'd just worked on our marriage instead of running away from his problems and creating new ones. But by then, it was too late.
People have been known to change in times of stress, or ill health. It's not new. It doesn't make me an idiot, to not be psychic and foresee every change in him. It makes me human.
And even if I did know that he would leave once I had my children, I wouldn't go back and change that, because I wouldn't trade my children for anything. He had a purpose in my life, and once he fulfilled that purpose, that's when he changed his path. I was meant to mother these children. Would I have preferred that my marriage work and we raised them as a family, sure, that was my preference and intention, but that's not how it worked out. And I am okay with that. I am fine with him moving on with someone else, the only objection I have is when he makes decisions that affect my children and my time with them, without discussing it with me, and the fact that he has not paid the child support that he is legally required to pay. But that will eventually get paid, because, by law the debt never goes away, even if he goes bankrupt, and if he delays too long, they'll put him in jail, and he will work it off at $50 a day, and I think he'd rather pay the money than spend the better part of a year in jail.