Yes at one time it did turn me on in a weird way to have my man watch me eat. It's purely a sexual thing. Food and sex has a oral tradition that goes back to antiquity and it's a fairly common sexual dynamic.Odinson wrote: ↑July 16th, 2021, 1:13 pmYes but you ought to think about why something turns you on.Renee wrote: ↑July 16th, 2021, 7:14 amThat's not always the case. Sometimes it's consensual and you cannot blame just one party......Everyone has their thing that drives them over the edge. Someone once told me that we don't get to decide what our sexual desires or fetishs are, we "discover" them....In other words once you find what turns your crank you are stuck with it and you cannot help but act upon it.Odinson wrote: ↑July 15th, 2021, 6:34 pmComplete neglect towards your partners well being in order to satisfy your pathetic sexual fetishes.Blue Frost wrote: ↑July 15th, 2021, 1:25 pm I have to wonder about the mentality of them both, and I have seen extreme ones over the years I really don't get.
You have the one feeding, and the other who eats, they seem never to get enough of it which baffles my mind.
The overage person worriers about themselves when it comes to eating, and today how to try to be "healthy" or help someone to eat better.
Strange.
I do not understand the abusive mentality behind it.
A man might think that feeding you is a way to control you.
I only somewhat know the male perspective.
As the woman, why do you agree to it?
Does it turn you on when your man watches you eat?
I'll tell you what it's like from my perspective and my perspective is not unusual....When you are a fat girl and you grow up having people tell you that you are a fat slob, "no one will find you attractive, you fat pig". When society tells you everywhere you look that your body is unacceptable, when ever bite you take is watched and you are judged for it. When you fail at every diet you undertake, it can be a liberating experience when you find someone who is actually attracted to you because you are heavy...It becomes even more liberating when that someone doesn't care how much you eat and actually wants you to grow bigger. It's an incredible feeling when your partner worships you as you grow larger and larger. It's all fun and games until one day you wake up and you no longer recognize the person you once were or one day when a health scare hits you because you have grown so fat....Then it becomes a struggle for your well-being and your very life....A lot of feedee/feeder relationships don't survive that breaking point.
Some feeder/feedee rationships never reach a breaking point. Sometimes it remains a consensual kink and the couple remains happy in that lifestyle. It depends on how far the kink is taken and how open the feedee is to becoming dependent on their feeder. It also depends on how far a feeder is willing to go. For many it's just a fanasty and most feeders don't have a good clue on how much work it is taking care of ssbbw with mobility and hygiene issues. The truth is that the whole idea that it is some kind of control thing on the part of the feeder is usually bunk. That concept was developed by people viewing the kink from an outside perspective. When you do not understand a ratio ship dynamic because it is alien to your way of thinking, your brain searches for answers as to the cause and effect. In my case my ex just really likes large women. He can't help it as he is hardwired that way. To him, bigger is better and he sees no harm in acting on his desires. Unfortunately he married the wrong woman.
... That's some really messed up shit.... 
